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The second part of the trap is that always staying in your personal comfort zone is incredibly limiting. Trying things your not sure about (at least once) may be a crap-shoot, but it can be very rewarding.

And *that’s* where you meet new (types of) people.

59Hope April 11, 2013 at 5:45 pm Interesting food for thought, Joe. I get caught up in critiquing my own art as well, and I may be missing the magic in it. I don’t feel relaxed but anxious about what I’ve done artistically. That’s probably an attitude I need to change.

60Joe April 11, 2013 at 5:58 pm Yeah, Hope. I sort of failed to make the point – taking that particular woman to a performance, making a real classic, classy date out if it could become a miserable experience quickly. She certainly went to the Kennedy Center often enough, by herself, with friends, on her own dime even. For her, it became “nothing special.” Avocations can do that to you sometimes. Football players get bored with “the game” too, especially after being in a few hundred of ‘em.

That’s why things that are slightly off-beat and things that you’re not quite sure will work are often the experiences that you’ll enjoy the most.

If you want to make a connection with the guy who’s struck up a conversation, have a list of things ready that you’ve been meaning to try, but haven’t gotten to yet. If and when one of those comes up, or anything close to it, you’re in like flynn. Just say the magic words “I thought it would be interesting to try… (insert interest of your choice here)”.

Now I’m being obvious, so I’ll stop.

61Madelena April 11, 2013 at 7:45 pm @Susan Yes! Eat lunch at the hospital or med school cafeteria! My Wharton roommate had great success with this method. Also, another woman I know got asked out by a resident as he inserted a speculum during a GYN visit. He commented on the clarity of her mucus, then asked her if she had a boyfriend. She thought he was inquiring about safe sex or STDs. When she said no, he said, “Great, would you like to grab a bite some23:45:29”

My response:

My eyebrows shot into my hairline reading that story.
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