Second, something that I think the article does not bring out but implies - any relationship such as this will inevitably have a strong impact on BOTH partners. To me, this is not emphasised enough - the woman may change her behavior to what they both agree is a better basis for the relationship to succeed (i.e. less need to take her in hand), but the man will inevitably change HIS actions as well, as he takes on the role of guardian and watch-keeper....
As I said - interesting article for Taken In Hand fans, though it's definitely in the "Advanced" category!
Stay well all,
Random
by Random on 2004 Aug 28 - 07:26 | reply to this comment
Thankyou for this profound post
As a submissive woman whose husband's not wired for this type of dominance I know where you're coming from. I wish my dh felt as you do, so many times I've wanted my dh to do what youre telling men to do & forget the niceynicey and GET SERIOUS but he can't see it & I've come to see that although he calls himself a Dom he has no interest in being in control apart from in the bedroom and even there it's a different type of control than you're describing. I'm going to show him youre post & hope it will help him get what I've been telling him..........
by Submissive on 2004 Aug 28 - 07:31 | reply to this comment
Not all women want this